Baby Showers and Etiquette

When it comes to baby showers, there really are very few steadfast rules that should be adhered to, as the event really will depend on the expectant mothers likes and wants and the personal opinions of the hosts. That being said, whether you are throwing a shower or you are expecting to have one thrown in your honor, there are a few points of etiquette that may make it easier for the guest of honor and the hosts of the event.

Who throws the baby shower? There really only is one rule that should be followed in regard to who throws the baby shower and that is – it’s not the mother-to-be. The hosts of the event can be anyone from a mother, a mother-in-law, sisters, aunts, cousins, friends – even a husband, fathers and brothers can throw them. The mother-to-be should be the guest of honor and not the one planning the event.

Who should be invited? There aren’t proper rules to follow when creating a guest list for a baby shower, either. Traditionally, baby showers are intended for women, but nowadays, men are becoming more common place at these events. Whether the shower is just for the ladies or is unisex, the guest list should include those who are important in the life of the mother-to-be; mother and mother-in-law, siblings, cousins, aunts, friends, co-workers and anyone else of significance should be on the list.

Can you have more than one shower? Why not? It’s not greedy or selfish to have more than one shower and in fact, it may be more convenient to have more than one. For example, there may be a baby shower for the family you live near, one for the family who lives far and one for the co-workers.

Are showers for subsequent babies allowed? It is often thought that baby showers should only be held for a mother who is expecting her first baby and after she has her first baby, she should be ready for all subsequent babies. The truth of the matter is that all babies require new things, particularly if the first baby is one sex and the next is the other, or if the babies are born with a large gap between them. Even if the subsequent babies are the same sex and aren’t born far apart, a baby shower will provide the mother-to-be with new and fresh items for her new and fresh baby.